How to Cope With an Aggressive Bully of a Boss

Is your boss getting you down? Do you feel like throwing in the towel to end the nightmare, by way of resigning? Do you struggle to get to sleep at night due to worrying about going to work on the next day? If you have answered yes to any of these questions then this article may well be of benefit to you. In the article I will be giving tips and advice about how to deal with an over-aggressive boss.

A few years ago I had a boss who seemed to have a real dislike of me. To say that he was nasty would be an understatement, many a day I would return home and have a cry; it was my way of releasing some of the emotion and tension. You may think that I am a wimp but I do not care – it was a very difficult period of my life.

I spoke to my father about the situation and told him that I was probably going to quit. My dad was understanding of the situation but advised me to stick it out and stated that I should not have to look for another job due to the incompetence of this man.

My boss was without doubt under pressure and I was aware that he had a number of personal problems; however there was no excuse for him taking it all out on me.

I am the first to admit that I am not perfect and that I make mistakes, don't we all? I certainly believed that overall I was an asset to the company and that I was a very loyal and hard worker.

I decided that to start with I would make a diary, a written account, of his behaviour towards me. I did this for a period of two months, yes I managed to last that long. I then approached my boss and requested that we had a meeting. He agreed and it was booked in for the next day at ten in the morning.

I felt very nervous as I travelled to work that day but also felt quite excited and proud that I was finally standing up to this bully.

Ten o'clock arrived and I headed to the meeting room with my professional looking diary in my hand. I said my piece, stated that I felt as if I was being treated unfairly, showed him the diary evidence, stated that I enjoyed working for the company, that I did not want to leave and requested that he lightens up some what.

To my amazement my boss reacted in a very positive way. He thanked me for the input I had made and apologised for the way that he had treated me. He stated that he had always treated his staff in this way and that nobody else had complained, it was the way he thought a boss should act – how wrong could he be?

This was a real result for me and work now became a much happier place to be.

Steve Hill is a webmaster from Birmingham; he helps to promote a number of websites including:

http://www.stammering-stuttering.co.uk

http://www.talkforless.co.uk

Article submitted Thursday, May 29, 2008
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