Enhancing Your Bedroom Experience (Tips on What Women May Enjoy)

   Every day, all around the world, many people are eager to learn how to enhance their bedroom experiences with women. Over time some couples find that their more intimate interactions tend to become repetitious, predictable and for some, non-existent. New couples can also experience difficulties in overcoming the initial shyness that prevents some people from sharing their turn-ons (or offs,) and enabling their relationship to be open in the bedroom. Popular trends and surveys indicate that with the busy lives people lead they don’t often have time and effort to research the problem of lacking bedroom attention and more often allow the problem to continue or become worse; as a result other problems can arise in the relationship that seem nearly impossible to solve because the root of the problem is not being addressed.
  Refreshing a faded bedroom style, or simply adding a little spice to a new one, is not a difficult task; with a little effort and a desire to create and comfortable and pleasurable atmosphere for you and your partner, achieving a new level of success in the bedroom can be easily achieved.

  The Lead In: A subject of much speculation and perhaps twice as many arguments is four-play; which many agree is an essential part of most good sexual experiences. Physical techniques tend to vary from woman to woman although many do have a few particular desires in common. The neck, for example, is a key body part to caress or kiss both before and during intimate times and is a very common section of the body women wish their partners would pay more attention to; never forget that a little pause during sex to pay attention to other more minor desires, can bring about an exciting and fulfilling sexual experience. Talking with your partner about what they enjoy, when you both feel comfortable with the subject, is an excellent way to understand her desires. Be sure to make her feel at ease with discussing her most intimate fantasies so that you can be a part of them.
  While physical acts go a long way toward achieving a spectacular sex-life, a great deal of four-play has absolutely nothing to do with touch. Role-playing fantasy characters may seem a funny idea, (often couples will have a serious case of the giggles at first,) but this can be a wonderful way to bring a refreshing and fun twist to the bedroom. Setting the scene so that your partner feels removed from everyday life can be very arousing; women often find that settings from their fantasies create an atmosphere of intense seduction. A fine, luxurious hotel room full of flowers and champagne, perhaps your sweetheart’s favorite foods, can be an ideal setting for creating a seductive mood simply because it is a special setting. Always keep in mind that location, and setting can at times be even more stimulating than the right physical moves. Showing your lady that you believe being intimate with her sometimes deserves special attention can keep your bedroom life exhilarating and fulfilling.

  The Act: During sex it is important to remember that women are stimulated by much more than penetration. Aside from the various parts of the body that can be touched to create a higher level of arousal there are many other conditions which can either ruin or enhance the act itself. A delay in movement can be deliriously satisfying, bring about an intense feeling when movement begins again; whispering particular phrases which you know will have a profound effect on her can also be very exciting. Eye contact is difficult to maintain during the entire act, however, brief moments of it perhaps followed by a kiss can be an excellent stimulus.
  Perhaps the most essential key to assuring that your partner is achieving the desired response to your actions, is to be constantly attentive to how her body responds. Feeling and listening to her during this intimate time will often tell you even more about what arouses her than she can explain in words; it is critical to remember these various physical responses so that you can incorporate them into future acts.

  The Afterglow: Often over looked, the time after climax when intercourse has ceased, is an important time to attend to. Though one or both partners may be exhausted immediately after sex, how a woman is treated in the minutes that follow have an enormous effect on how she will feel about the entire experience. Taking a few minutes to cuddle, or hold a woman after the act can bring about a sense of contentment that will be left missing if the treatment afterward is considered distant.
  This is perhaps because for many years the interaction between men and women has been a complex and ever changing revolution around the promise of sex. For centuries women have dangled the promise of intimate acts in front of men in order to arouse them or lure them into relationships. As people have evolved emotionally this is far from the only desire men may have when entering a relationship, however hundreds of years worth of instinct and play cannot be ignored when considering the emotional state of women. Immediately following sex many women feel, though they may not be completely aware of it, as though they have given up the only lure in retaining their partner’s attention. Though this can be far from the truth, a woman is still quite vulnerable in this state and can have extremely, poor emotional reactions to how she perceives the way she being treated. Even if time does not allow for a great deal of comfort or physical contact, taking the time to reassure her verbally or perhaps with a few well chosen physical acts such as kissing or caressing, can leave her with an overall feeling that experience was wonderful.
  When all aspects of intimacy are considered it can be difficult to know how to please a woman; for most the real problem is that her partner does not take the time to analyze a few very simple ideas that can completely change how she views her sex-life. To truly show your partner how much you wish to please her, simply take the time to attend to her physical and emotional needs and often you will find that her appreciation of your intimate time together, as well as her desire to be intimate more often, will increase greatly.

Written by Katt Chat for Village Matchmaker's Online dating reviews.

Kattchat, your unofficial online dating and relationship advisor.

Article submitted Thursday, June 19, 2008
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