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SEXUAL FITNESS
Q: I am a 30-year-old woman enjoys have sex with my husband of 11 years. The problem is, I have an orgasm during intercourse. Is there some -thing wrong with me ?
A: I wish a buck every time a woman asked me this question! In reality, approximately 60-80 percent of women report difficulties achieving orgasms through intercourse alone. It is unfortunate that society continurs to perpetuate the myth that any penis-vagina penetration will pleasure a women. Even pornographic films show women enduring extended "in-our action" with multiple orgasms. While I applaud the great acting in these films, that's what it truly is: Just acting. These types of images only make women and men feel that if an orgasm isn't reached during intercourse, they're defective in some way. The majority of women end up "faking it" - sometimes, through entire lifetimes, just to avoid making their partners feel inadequate. The reality is that in order for a female orgasm to be reached, women need to have stimulation of the clitoral area. Unfortunately, many common intercourse intercourse positions simply do not meet this objective. The good news is that there are many trchniques you can use during intercourse to add pleasure to your experience. You or your partner could use a hand or a vibrator to stimulate your clitoris. Also, try more women-on-top positions, which will allow you to change the angle of insertion so you can have penetration and cliroral pressure at the same time. Experimenting with these options is not only fun, but can enhance the communication and attunement between you and your husband. Add if you've been faking it all along, think about discussing this with him, too If he is under the impression that he has always had all the right moves, he will just continue to do the don't pleasure you. As a rule, men want to satisfy their partners. Communicating your needs to him may challenge him to work on new ways to make you feel aroused and bring you two closer togerher.
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Q: The other day, I caught my boyfriend masturbating in the bathroom. I was so humiliated to find out that he needs to do that since I thought I was satisfying him sexually. What would you say I am doing wrong ?
A: It isn't uncommon for a woman (as well as a man) to think that if she is having satisfying sex with her partner, he wouldn't need or want to masturbate. Women, in particular, tend to feel threatened when they find out their men masturbate. They look at "cheating" or a sign that they are undesirable in some way. And if they discover their partners using pornographic material for stimulus, they tend to feel even more betrayed. Fantasizing about other women and/or men while self-pleasuring doesn't mean that a person is any less attracted to or desirous of his partner. The truth is, masturbation and sexual fantasizing are healthy parts of life, whether a person is single or in a monogamous relationship. In fact, men and women who are having regular, fulfilling sexual intimacy are often more likely to masturbate. Self-pleasuring is a great way to explore one's own body and to learn how one needs to be stimulated to achieve orgasms. Fantasizing or using erotica to arouse oneself can improve sex drive at different life stages and often enhance long-term monogamous relationships. Although masturbation is a private experience, you may consider talking with your boyfriend concerning what he fantasizes about while he is enjoying it and incorporate that into your lovemaking. Communicating openly about your fears that he doesn't desire you may result in crucial conversations about your relationship that have nothing to do with sex. Feeling certain that the two of you want to be with each other would help you feel less "humiliated" and more accepting of hid private moments with himself.
Q: I have heard a part of a woman's vagina called the G-spot that people say is the G-spot that people say is the place to touch if you want to have a really intense orgasm. Where exactly is the "G-spot" and is it really true what they say about it? A: You have got to love a guy who somehow managed to get a so-called "magic orgasm button" on a woman named after himself. In the early 1970s, a gynecologist named Ernst Grafenberg announced that he found this place, which he insisted when stimulated, produced phenomenally intense orgasms. It is hypothesized to be located somewhere inside the vagina (on all women) on the upper wall. Ever since then, there has been a social frenzy to find this place. Men search for it like they're on a quest for the Holy Grail. Researchers have attempted to answer your "where and what" question for decades with no results. The bottom line is there is no conclusive evidence the G-sport actually exists. Sex therapists (myself included) like to say that the center of center of sexual arousal for women and men is in the brain. Getting in touch with what is most erotic and stimulating for you mentally will assist you in identifying what will be most arousing when you're having sex with your partner. Enhancing sexual pleasure through attunement with each other's bodies is the best tool to intense satisfaction in any intimate relationship. Every woman is different, and you and your partner will have fun trying to find your own personal "magic button!"
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Article submitted Sunday, September 07, 2008
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