How to Succeed in Dating Asian Girls?

Quick facts: Most of Non –Asian men never get pass first date with Asian girl?

In the following few paragraphs I will try to give you some simple tips that will help you avoid common mistakes that men do when dating Asian girls and I will explain differences between women that you used to date and Asian women that you are going to meet.

Generally the major problem is lack of understanding of their culture. You have to understand the differences, unusual habits that your new girlfriend might have. Each Asian culture is different, nevertheless, there are many similarities between them. Rich cultural heritage, strong attachment to tradition carried on for generations, respect for elderly and parents. Asian women usually have really good manners, are polite, modest and look for similar virtues in man.

Taking this into consideration there are two really important things to remember:

1. Be self confident, presentable but not cocky. The approach that sometimes works great with white girls doesn't always do the trick with more reserved and ‘formal' Asian ladies.
2. Avoid generalizations. Treat every girl as one-of-a-kind individual. You are not dating the whole nation but this one particular human being and remember the term ‘Asian women' covers a whole wide range of females from many countries all over the world. Make sure that you know exactly what you are talking about before you even try to refer to her origin or culture. If you're not positive about what you're about to say, don't say that at all and stay on neutral ground. There are many things you can talk about with a girl apart from her culture. Saying Chinese girl that you admire her Korean heritage is one single most common deadly mistake men commit every day.

Practical tips:

Don't put to much pressure on the first date. If you don't have experience with Asian girls don't make it worst by making the date overwhelming and loaded with expectations. Start off casual. You don't have to impress her the first day. If you know a girl that you like invite her for a coffee, get to know her better. Do it once or twice, when she feels comfortable around you, relaxed, than you can catch her off guard and suggest a ‘real' date. This approach will also give you more time to prepare yourself.

Remember that family is really important for Asians – throw in a few questions about her family into the conversation. You will get her attention, respect and useful information.

Act like she's not an Asian but treat her like one. Never say anything like "I always wanted to date an Asian girl" or "I heard Asian women are great wives" she might and probably will feel offended. Avoid stereotypes.

Don't expect Asian women to take the charge. Never ask her what she wants to do or where she wants to go. It is you who have to make a suggestion and then ask if she would be interested in doing this or that.

You can, if you want, make friends with some Asian guys. Hang out with them a couple of times, see what they do, what they talk about. This will give you a good insight of the cultural differences and things to watch out for.

Lastly, it may seem obvious but remember that each girl is different. You have to study each case separately. If you're really into learning Asian women maybe it is a good idea to date more than one girl in the short period of time? This will give you wider perspective.

Avoid common mistakes that I mentioned before, have your eyes and ears open and you will be successful in dating Asian girls.

Article submitted Tuesday, September 30, 2008
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